How a 4th grader ruined my confidence (ouch)
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Today’s Raw Thoughts:
- Something on my mind: Life is a mirror
- Something I am learning: Money is energy
- How I recently failed: Late nights don’t lead to early mornings
- How I recently won: Launched my retreat today
- Story & lesson: A 4th grader ruined my confidence
- Q & A: How do I forgive?
Something on my mind: Life is a mirror
We often look at our lives, and the world around us with an outside in perspective.
What we don’t realize is we are constantly projecting our internal world out onto the outer world… and the outer world is only reflecting back to us our projections.
We were blessed with divinity, and the ability to create unlike any other living creature on our planet. Sure, other animals can create life… but can they think of an idea, and bring it to life?
A human being has an inspired idea to create a telephone, and now I have an IPhone (sorry android).
A dog doesn’t think of a cookie, and create one. It is limited by our ability to create that cookie, and then feed it to them.
Our life, and our experience of it are only a reflection of our own consciousness. Consciousness is you being aware that you are alive reading this right now. It is your awareness.
To think that there are any causes in our life, outside of our own consciousness is false. We reap what we sow. We become, and create what we think about and experience in our internal world.
“If the mirror isn’t smiling, smile.” – If you don’t like the reflection, update the projection.
The universe, and life is mental.
Master it, and you master life.
Something I am learning: Money is energy
Since we are already going deep today, let’s keep going.
Money is energy, and is a byproduct of value.
Value can be exchanged with:
- Your ability to provide to the world
- The knowledge you have
- Attention you grab
- Skills you develop
Everything in the universe is energy. An ocean of motion.
Like attracts like, and we do not attract into our life what we want… but what we ARE.
Abundance, or “wealth” is a byproduct of the mindset, and energetic frequency you adopt.
Why do some people absolutely crush it, while others struggle?
It isn’t “luck”.
It’s a reflection of the person.
You will earn more money, when you update the internal relationship you have with “money”, “abundance”, and “receiving”.
You don’t have to be a “good” person to make money.
But, think of all the good you can do if you made a literal Shit ton of it.
Money only amplifies what you are.
- If you are a Shit bag, you will be a giant one.
- If you are a upstanding person, you will impact many.
Life is more spiritual and mental, than physical.
How I recently failed: Late nights don’t lead to early mornings
When I was younger I was dialed in.
Up by 6am, bed by 9-10pm, repeat.
Lately, I have been getting back to early mornings – until I don’t.
- I stay up late working on projects, or brainstorming.
- I go to a concert, or outing on the weekends.
- I snooze my alarm, and stay in bed.
It takes a toll on me mentally because I know I am a leader.
What kind of example am I setting?
I’ve learned it is a balance, and I want to have a life of flexibility… but it also takes discipline, and true commitment.
Report back soon.
How I recently won: Launched my retreat today
I think we can all agree that Men nowadays need help.
They:
- Suffer in silence, and have no one to turn to.
- Lack purpose, and meaning in life.
- Feel lost, and disconnected.
I refused to stand by and not do something about it.
I am proud as hell to announce The Rite of Passage Retreat.
Men for thousands of years had a Rite of Passage.
They didn’t have to figure it out alone, it was passed down to them.
They gathered to grow together, and challenge each other to step up in their lives.
The Men of the past were Initiated into their greatness.
The Men that attend this retreat will experience the same.
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Story & lesson: A 4th grader ruined my confidence
I had a huge limiting belief up until now. I am not creative. I suck at “art”. I am not “artistic”.
Everything I am creating right now between the personal brand, content, website, etc requires creativity.
Upon reflection, I found out where I picked up that limiting belief:
Some little Shit in 4th grade telling me my art project sucked, and his was better.
Crazy, right?
All those years ago lil Riley man decided he wasn’t creative because of one thing some kid said.
Where in your life are you holding yourself back because of a similar experience? Do you even realize it?
Good news! I realized I am one creative, and artistic MF’er. I am enjoying every minute of it.
Questions & Answers: How do I forgive?
Today’s question is one I received from my friend Terrell, and since have had a few others ask about it.
“How do you forgive someone that wronged you?”
“What even is forgiveness?”
In my life I have had to forgive people for some pretty hard things.
- Forgive myself for telling my brother he was a piece of Shit before he died + many other things.
- Getting abused and neglected as a kid from family members.
- Getting cheated on, and lied to in a long term relationship.
The reality? Forgiveness isn’t a one and done.
It’s something you revisit consistently.
The true definition of forgiveness is “to give as before.”
My definition varies slightly. I wouldn’t get back into relationship with that person. I won’t expect those people to magically change after being cruel. I’m not able to pretend I haven’t done things I am not proud of.
BUT. What I can do is this:
- Let go of judgement, or expectation and allow people to change on their own time.
- Have compassion, and gratitude for the people or experiences that shaped me.
- Choose to change, or redefine how I interact with, or relate to those people.
- Internalize the lessons I learned, and carry them with me as who I am now.
Forgiveness isn’t even about THEM. It’s about YOU.
Give yourself the opportunity to heal, let go, and move on.
Because if not, it’s like drinking poison and expecting them to die.
It’s only going to hurt you more if you don’t.
“Heal what hurt you, or you will bleed on those that didn’t cut you”
Hope that helps
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In case you missed it: How to not be broke
In Saturdays Issue, I covered the 3 things you need to know about money so you are never broke again.
Most Americans have less than $1,000 in savings. They are on the cusp of financial ruin, and they aren’t sure how to improve their situation.
Read how you can level up financially here.
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